The relationship a mum shares with her children is unique, complex, and constantly evolving. For many, she can be a continuous source of emotional, professional, romantic and mental guidance and support.
In honour of Mother’s Day on 31st March, One4all asked people to reflect on their relationship with their mums, sharing their fondest memories, what they’re most thankful for and the most valuable lessons they’ve learned.
Here, Erin, founder of the Her Generation Project, an online community and network for mothers with daughters, tells us about her wonderful relationship with mum Julie.
Tell us about your relationship with your mum:
‘My relationship with my mum is long-distance as we live in different areas of the country. When I was younger, I felt like we were so different. I was fiercely independent and felt I had to provide consistency and stability in our family. I had a hard time relating to her in my teen and young adult years but as soon as I had a daughter of my own, the lightbulb went on and I learned to lean on her more than ever before. Technology has helped us, and we facetime weekly and text often. She is the best grandmother and will do absolutely anything for her girls.’
What’s the fondest memory you have of your mum from your childhood?
‘As a child, I was heavily involved in competition dance and baton twirling. Each year she would take a week off from work to be present with me at our national competition. I have no doubt that while she enjoyed watching me compete, she had different things she would rather be doing year after year. The week of competition was highly emotional and exhausting. Win or lose she was there for me. She didn't have to be. The team travelled by bus and I could have roomed with a friend, but she drove with other mums to be there for me and do anything and everything I needed so I could focus on competing. I love her for those competition experiences and never want to forget them.’
What are you most grateful to your mum for?
‘I don't think I realised how much my own mum means to me until I had children of my own. When I was nearing the end of pregnancy with my first child, we had always planned to have her come right away to help. I went into labor in the early hours the day before the baby's due date. Immediately when I called, she got in the car to make the five-hour trip. She was sure she would miss the birth but as luck (or not my luck) would have it, baby did not arrive until after midnight. She stayed by my side the entire time and having her leave us two weeks later was by far one of the most emotional moments in our relationship. I am so grateful to her for the time she spent with us the first week of my new baby's life.’
How has your mum supported you in life?
‘My mum has been a source of support in my own parenting journey. There are times I feel unprepared or times I wonder if what I am doing is the right thing and she is there to remind me that I do know best. To have confidence in how we are raising our kids. To be grateful for them even when they make us crazy.’
What are the biggest life lessons you’ve learned from your mum?
‘My mum and I actually have very different personalities in most respects but one major trait I take from her is her work ethic. She rarely takes a day off and is convinced that she is the best person for the job most of the time. She rarely complains about her workload or the amount of extra time she has dedicated without recognition or appreciation. I have watched her dedicate her entire adult life to one employer and her dedication and loyalty are admirable.’
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